u noe recently ive been listening to gold90.5fm whenever i study at night,and theres always this reflection thing at 1130pm, which i feel is really good. to listen and then to think about. today's one was about perfecting relationships. here's the past few ive gathered.
RIGHT SPEECH
There is a Chinese saying which carries the meaning that "A speech will either prosper or ruin a nation." Many relationships break off because of wrong speech. When a couple is too close with each other, we always forget mutual respect and courtesy.We may say anything without considering if it would hurt the other party.
A friend and her millionaire husband visited their construction site. A worker who wore a helmet saw her and shouted,"Emily! Remember me? We used to date in the secondaryschool." On the way home, her millionaire husband teased her, "Luckily you married me. Otherwise youwill be the wife of a construction worker." She answered," You should appreciate that you married me. Otherwise, he will be the millionaire and not you."
Frequently exchanging these remarks plants the seed for a bad relationship. It's like a broken egg - cannot be reversed.
NO POINTING FINGERS
A man asked his father-in-law, "Many people praised you for asuccessful marriage. Could you please share with me your secret?" The father-in-law answered in a smile, "Never criticize your wife for her shortcomings or when she does something wrong. Always bear in mind that because of her shortcomings and weaknesses, she could not find a better husbandthan you."
We all look forward to being loved and respected. Many people are afraid of losing face. Generally, when a person makes a mistake, he would look around to find a scapegoat to point the finger at.This is the start of a war. We should always rememberthat when we point one finger at a person, the other four fingers are pointing at ourselves.If we forgive the others, others will ignore our mistake too.
CREATING PERFECT RELATIONSHIPS
A person visited the government matchmaker for marriage, SDU, and requested "I am looking for a spouse. Please help meto find a suitable one." The SDU officer said, "Your requirements, please." "Oh, good looking, polite,humorous, sporty, knowledgeable, good in singing and dancing. Willing to accompany me the whole day at home during my leisure hour, if I don't go out. Telling me interesting stories when I need companion for conversation and be silent when I want to rest." The officer listened carefully and replied, "I understand you need a television."
There is a saying that a perfect match can only be found between a blind wife and a deaf husband, because the blind wife cannot see the faults of the husband and the deafhusband cannot hear the nagging of the wife. Many couples are blind and deaf at the courting stage and dream of perpetual perfect relationship.Unfortunately, when the excitement of love wearsoff, they wake up and discover that marriage is not abed of roses. The nightmare begins.
BE PATIENT
A man came out ofhis home to admire his new truck. To his puzzlement,his three-year-old son was happily hammering dentsinto the shiny paint of the truck. The man ran to hisson, knocked him away, and hammered the little boy'shands into pulp as punishment. When the father calmeddown, he rushed his son to the hospital.Although the doctor tried desperately to save thecrushed bones, hefinally had to amputate the fingers from both theboy's hands. When the boy woke up from the surgery &saw his bandaged stubs, he innocently said, "Daddy,I'm sorry about your truck." Then he asked, "but whenare my fingers going to grow back?" The father wenthome & committed suicide.
Think about this story the next time someone steps onyour feet or uwish to take revenge. Think first before u lose yourpatience with someone u love.Trucks can be repaired.. Broken bones & hurt feelings often can't. Toooften we fail to recognize the difference between theperson and theperformance. We forget that forgiveness is greaterthan revenge.People make mistakes. We are allowed to make mistakes. But the actions we take while in a rage will haunt usforever.
and i saw this really hilarious joke. :)
5 Secrets to a Perfect Relationship
1. It is important that a man helps you around the house and has a job.
2. It is important that a man makes you laugh.
3. It is important to find a man you can count on and doesn't lie to you.
4. It is important that a man is good in bed and loves making love to you.
5. It is extremely important that these four men don't know each other.
ok that was long. but hopefully its a good read (and break from the mugging! ahah).
time. and faith and belief and support.
maybe with all these im going to be fine.
but theres still more to learn and understand and accept.